As I Lay Dying’s Tim Lambesis has shared a statement via social media addressing recent allegations of abuse, infidelity and more by his former wife Dany Ciara.
CONTENT WARNING: This article discusses sexual abuse and domestic violence.
As I Lay Dying frontman Tim Lambesis has issued a new statement on social media following allegations made by his ex-wife Dany Ciara in a recent interview on BREWtally Speaking Podcast.
In her nearly four hour long interview, Ciara would dive deeper into multiple allegations of abuse, infidelity and coercive behaviour she had made against Lambesis in greater detail.
Ciara and Lambesis would end their relationship in 2024, both issuing public statements accusing one another of verbal, physical and mental abuse.
Lambesis would share a new statement earlier today addressing the allegations made against him in detail on Instagram:
“I stayed quiet about my personal life because it wasn’t relevant to the work. I’m only speaking now because the same pattern keeps repeating. Old stories resurface only when my life and career move forward again.
I’m not interested in drama or attention. The music either stands on its own or it doesn’t.
What is difficult to ignore is when someone you moved on from long ago suddenly becomes publicly fixated right when momentum returns. That kind of timing explains itself.
Context matters. Removing it is the easiest way to manufacture a narrative, especially when platforms are willing to host one-sided stories without accountability.
I was held accountable for my past over a decade ago. Since then, my life has been public, documented, and scrutinized. If anything illegal had happened in the years since, it would have been addressed through proper channels.
This isn’t even unique. The same sequence played out with another artist, Greg Overton, following a surge of visibility after appearing on the Joe Rogan podcast. Public commentary from a former relationship followed immediately. People noticed then, just as they notice now.
Some people build things. Others only appear when there’s something to attach themselves to. In the end, it’s the work that lasts, not the noise around it.
It’s over. Time to finally move on. I’m going back to making music. I have an album to finish before the next tour.”
The metalcore frontman would go on to write in the comments: “I’ve stayed quiet for a long time because the work mattered more than the noise.I’m only speaking now because silence stops being an option when old stories resurface without context.”
“Context matters. Online narratives don’t always reflect reality. Onward (for most of us at least) to a beautiful new year.”
Fans would share their thoughts in the comments, where Lambesis would respond to their criticisms of him.
“This is not how men should treat their women, and sure context matters, but given the charges you previously did jail time for, it’s hard to look past,” wrote one commenter.
“It’s for sure hard to understand that person would have a mental breakdown after being trapped in rooms and unable to leave for days at a time as well as being chased around with a knife,” responded Lambesis. “But just because it’s hard to understand doesn’t mean that’s not what happened.”
He would finish arguing in the comments by writing:
“Context matters.
Online narratives don’t always reflect reality.
Onward (for most of us at least) to a beautiful new year.”
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